As the time approached to leave for the day, i said slowly..’there is something i need to tell you.’

He looked like he knew what i was going to say, didnt look surprised..i had been expecting a jaw dropping moment, tension in the air..but no!

He pulled in towards me, he could tell i was a little on edge, and reached out to settle me.  I laughed it off, of course..its ok.

‘remember when i told you i had been engaged..? i didnt mention that i had born a son..8 years ago..thats why i am here today, he is on holiday with his grandparents..’

He then went on to ask me what his name is, told me that is great, and that i would not have changed anything..to be honest, i was waiting to tell you something too..I am glad you told me, it means you are starting to trust me, and i do want to see you more often’.

Never thought of it like that, i just thought it was decent to tell him now..

He continued..

“i have a 2 year old too, i have shared custody..” He showed me a photo, and told me the story, told me he loves the bones of his child and it is the best thing in his life.

There is a twist to this story…gets better!!

His son was born the same day as my son..just 6 years apart.

The similarities in this man is uncanny:

Both joined the military to do the same thing;

In the same war zone back in 2003;

Lived and breathed coogee beach;

Work in the same field;

Both share the same experience with ‘love’;

Born a few days apart (deduct a few years);

Both share the dream to own and run a wine bar on the coast;

I adore the coffee, he adores the other beverages…as men do..!

So having said this, i am glad i mentioned it..its taken the dating to a different level, which i am not sure what is…until next year..

Has this happened to you? Have you been expecting the worst when revealing something about yourself, to only have the other experience the exact same thing?

We have shared coffee, had a few glasses of wine in a wine bar, talked about our respective families, our hopes, our goals, we have been to a lovely restaraunt and eaten nice food, we have walked along the river front, and are going to lunch next week followed by celebrating New Year on a boat to see the fireworks..

He thinks im successful, independant, gorgeous…and chuckled at my ute!

But, he is nice, funny, has a nice accent…BUT he does not know yet that i have my little bundle of joy, and have had for 8 years now (thats my little boy!)

Now its crunch time, to see what type of guy he is! Everyone thinks that guys dont care these days, and if he is 33, well he should be just happy he is dating someone almost 5 years younger!

So do i tell him during lunch, after lunch, before lunch or..after date 6?

I have had coffee twice with one guy, who is now constantly texting me, calling me BABY (aaargh).

I have found it easy to talk and get on, and get to know the guy..But have found it very off putting to be constantly texted?

How many times a day should someone really be messaging you..when you have only had 2 coffee dates?