I met up with the man i have been dating for a few weeks after i dropped off my child to see the grandparents for a week. Just so happened he was up the coast too.
As the time approached to leave for the day, i said slowly..’there is something i need to tell you.’
He looked like he knew what i was going to say, didnt look surprised..i had been expecting a jaw dropping moment, tension in the air..but no!
He pulled in towards me, he could tell i was a little on edge, and reached out to settle me. I laughed it off, of course..its ok.
‘remember when i told you i had been engaged..? i didnt mention that i had born a son..8 years ago..thats why i am here today, he is on holiday with his grandparents..’
He then went on to ask me what his name is, told me that is great, and that i would not have changed anything..to be honest, i was waiting to tell you something too..I am glad you told me, it means you are starting to trust me, and i do want to see you more often’.
Never thought of it like that, i just thought it was decent to tell him now..
He continued..
“i have a 2 year old too, i have shared custody..” He showed me a photo, and told me the story, told me he loves the bones of his child and it is the best thing in his life.
There is a twist to this story…gets better!!
His son was born the same day as my son..just 6 years apart.
The similarities in this man is uncanny:
Both joined the military to do the same thing;
In the same war zone back in 2003;
Lived and breathed coogee beach;
Work in the same field;
Both share the same experience with ‘love’;
Born a few days apart (deduct a few years);
Both share the dream to own and run a wine bar on the coast;
I adore the coffee, he adores the other beverages…as men do..!
So having said this, i am glad i mentioned it..its taken the dating to a different level, which i am not sure what is…until next year..
Has this happened to you? Have you been expecting the worst when revealing something about yourself, to only have the other experience the exact same thing?
